Today is Mother’s Day, a day to celebrate the woman who has
been the most influential in our lives. While many people of happily buying
gifts and mushy cards for their moms, there are a great deal more who feel the
weight of today. This post is for them. This is for the women who must hide
their pain as they watch everyone’s joy and celebration. I feel your pain. I
know your pain. You are not alone. I see you and you are in my prayers. Many
people think that becoming a mother and even being a mother is something that
just happens. I know the heartache and the struggles that some don’t think
about.
To the mothers who struggle with pregnancy loss: I know this
day can be the hardest. And I know that nothing I say can ease your pain. It
doesn’t matter if you have a child or you don’t, any loss of a child makes this
day is a reminder that all of your children are not here. While the thought may
be in your head all year around, this day can bring the thought to the
forefront more often, I know. It’s okay to be sad and grieve for the child or
children who aren’t here to celebrate you as their mom. I pray that the Lord
draw you closer today and may you feel the love of the day. Because you are a
mother. Your child may not have drawn breathe or lived to see this day;
however, you still held them under your heart or in your arms for their time on
earth. You still had hopes and dreams for life with this child. It’s okay to
cry. If I could, I would hug each one of you and cry along with you.
To the mothers who may not have their children due to circumstances
beyond their control: I can’t begin to understand the sorrow you feel with this
day. Not all moms don’t have custody of their children because they did
something wrong. Sometimes it’s just in the best interest of the child. At the
time you may the best decision you could. To know that your child(ren) are out
there somewhere and not with you. I wish I had words of wisdom for you, for
comfort, for strength. I can only pray that the Lord gives you the comfort that
your children are safe and loved. They miss you and think of you often. And may
one day they will be with you again. I know there is no getting back the days
or years without your children and the hope of seeing them again one day may be
of little comfort, I hope you find it in your heart and mind to understand that
you did nothing wrong. You were trying to be the best mother to your children.
Unfortunately, this cold, cruel world was against you.
To the individuals who mothers are no longer here: the loss
of a parent is one of the hardest goodbye we will face in life, especially a
mother. When your mother is a strong positive influence and force in your life,
her absence can be felt the deepest on Mother’s Day. When your mom was your confidant
and a source of comfort and advice and everything a mother should be, Mother’s
Day makes her loss an even deeper hole in your life. Remember your mom with
fondness, remember the good days and happy times. “When you speak of her, speak
not with tears, for thoughts of her should not be sad. Let memories of the
times you shared give you comfort, for her life was rich because of you”
(author unknown). May the memories of your mom bring joy and laughter through
your tears for our mom never truly leave us. Their love leaves a deep
impression on our hearts.
To the individuals who may not have the greatest
relationship with their mother: this day can be hard too. The greeting cards
gush with love over a mom’s love, a mom’s care and influence. Cards thanking
moms for being the reason you are such a great person today. However, this may
not be a positive thing. I know many people who are great people despite their mother’s
treatment of them growing up. When your mother isn’t a positive influence in your
life, it makes the meaning of Mother’s Day very hard. I know people whose
mothers act and believe that their children are here to serve them throughout
their lives and never really see them for the adults they are today. The wound
is deep when it’s your mom who doesn’t see you as a strong, successful person,
living life and taking care of things as successful adults do. Nothing you do
may be good enough for her, but you can be proud of your accomplishments.
In closing, I want to leave you with words of comfort. When
Mother’s Day is a day mixed with sadness among the joy and celebration. To the
mothers of loss and those who have lost their moms, “Death leaves a heartache
no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal” (from a Headstone in
Ireland). To the mothers whose children cannot be with them, may you feel your
child’s love across the miles. To the individuals with not so good relationships
with their moms, I know it’s hard when the woman who is supposed to love you
doesn’t act like it. To everyone who hurts on Mother’s Day, Psalm 34:18 says “The
Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” May
you feel the Lord’s comfort today and always.
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