Finding F*ck Yes: A Memoir of Orgasms and Insulin by
Clare Marie Edgeman is an unabashed, in your face honesty about sex and one
woman’s journey to enjoy sex and dealing with the constraints of Type 1
diabetes. From her nerdy teenager years in rural Montana to her traveling
across Europe before settling in New York City, Ms. Edgeman writes a vulnerable
memoir in which she holds nothing back. She describes herself as a “strong,
independent, curvy, diabetic slut” as she finds dates on various dating apps
and hooks up through friends and acquaintances. Finding F*ck Yes can be
described as Sex and the City for millennials or even, as someone else put it,
Eat, Pray, Love, meets Sex and the City, as it is her journey to
self-discovery, self-knowledge and becoming comfortable with every aspect of
her life from her body image, her Type 1 diabetes and her sexual desires.
When I was asked to review Finding F*ck Yes, I was
intrigued by the premise as I have never seen a book about sexuality and a
chronic illness. And it starts that way, but at one point for several chapters,
she does not mention her Type 1 diabetes. After a while, the book became
formulaic as she goes from one lover to another. I liked that she is
comfortable with her promiscuity and she does not try to convince other women
to follow her example. I have never been or could ever be promiscuous. I am
proud and comfortable, and quite satisfied with having only one partner just as
she is proud and comfortable with her “sluttiness.” And I think Ms. Edgeman’s
point of her memoir is for women to be comfortable with their lifestyle as they
chose to live it regardless of how others may think. The descriptions of her
sexual encounters do get graphic and some were very cringey that I skimmed
through it. So, if you have delicate sensibilities, this book is not for you. I
applaud and appreciate her honesty as she pulls no punches. This book is not
for everyone and I would recommend it for those women who may be struggling
with their body image and how it may affect their sexuality. With writing Finding
F*ck Yes: A Memoir of Orgasms & Insulin, Ms. Edgeman puts forth “a
reflection of our society, a meditation on self-worth, a treatise on how we
treat women who love sex, and a challenge of how we view women who are not
thin.” And to some degree, I feel Ms. Edgeman accomplishes her goal.
Finding F*ck Yes:
A Memoir of
Orgasms and Insulin
is available in
paperback and eBook
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