Showing posts with label power. Show all posts
Showing posts with label power. Show all posts

Saturday, October 26, 2024

Gather Me: a memoir about life and the power of books to inspire and comfort

Gather Me: A Memoir in Praise of the Books that Saved Me by Glory Edim is an inspiring memoir reflecting on family, community and the power of books and the impact they can have in our lives. Edim grew up in Virginia to Nigerian immigrant parents and for the longest time her only friends, her only solace as in the books. From the books she read in school to the classics she discovered at her local libraries and while in college, she learned about the world around her, about history and about herself. Edim details how the profound writers from Toni Morrison to Maya Angelou, and many more, had impacted the times in her life when times were bleak and gave her hope for the future. Through her love of reading, she was able to form the Well Read Black Girl Book Club and reach millions of other readers. 

Books have been a huge part of my life since I was a teen. Like Ms Edim, I found solace and encouragement in the perseverance and resilience of the characters who faced challenges with courage and determination. Glory Edim presents a memoir that books can help us see ourselves as well as others. Her life story is just as much of an inspiration as the books she read as a child. She endured her parents divorce, her father leaving the family behind in America and her mother’s illness to find a platform through books and bring awareness on a wider scale. The hardships she had to endure were heartbreaking and yet her determination to rise above them is heartwarming. Gather Me was an easy read as Ms Edim writes with as much beauty as the authors she admires. Overall, I enjoyed her story and I highly recommend Gather Me


Gather Me: A Memoir in Praise of the Books that Saved Me 

Will be available October 29, 2024 in hardcover, eBook and audiobook


Tuesday, October 8, 2024

I Forgive You, But...: the freeing and healing power of forgiveness

“I Forgive You, But…” 3 Steps that can heal your heart forever by Karen Jensen Salisbury asks the question “Have you ever been hurt, betrayed, used or done wrong?” At some point in life, everyone experiences wounds at the hands or words of others. Staying hurt is not okay. When we refuse to forgive, holding on to the hurt, we end up hurting ourselves rather than punishing the person who hurt us. Karen Jensen Salisbury sets out to present a book about how to forgive, how to turn to the Bible when you’ve been hurt and let the Word set you free. Forgiveness is the God offered do-overs and fresh starts and walk away free from the pain of the past. Featuring the real life stories of individuals who once thought that forgiveness wasn’t the answer, but learned the transformative power of forgiveness. 

Many people think that forgiveness should be given when it has been asked for or when the person is truly sorry. However, what happens when the person never asks or doesn’t think he or she did anything wrong. Karen Jensen Salisbury shows readers through personal stories and Scriptures that forgiveness frees us from bitterness and resentment even when forgiveness isn’t asked for or when the pain remains despite the “I’m sorry.” While I expected a different format, the book is still filled with Scriptures on forgiveness and examples of how unforgiveness affects our daily lives. One of my favorite quotes from the book is “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future. Nobody can go back and make a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” What a great reminder! I recommend “I Forgive You, But…” 


“I Forgive You, But…” 3 Steps that can heal your heart forever  

is available in paperback, eBook and audiobook



Sunday, May 8, 2022

Such Big Dreams: breaking free and living life on your own terms

Such Big Dreams by Reema Patel is a  story of a savvy former child of the street who discovers a chance to live her life on her own terms. Rakhi is a twenty-three year old who is haunted by the grisly events that led to the loss of her best friend. She is constantly reminded that she doesn’t belong, that she is a charity case as she lives in a Mumbai slum and works as a lowly office assistant for Justice for All, a struggling human rights organization. Hidden behind her façade hides a fierce intelligence and sharp wit with an even sharper tongue, Rakhi doesn’t allow anyone to play her for a fool. She knows that everyone underestimates her until a new intern enters the office. Alex Lalwani-Diamond is the family friend of Rubina Mansoor, a fading former Bollywood starlet. Alex is Indian-Canadian on his way to Harvard for graduate school. Ambitious, persistent and a bit naïve, Alex convinces Rakhi to show him the “real India,” which seems harmless at first. As Rakhi’s past and her aspirations collide, she comes face to face with difficult choices and the moral compromises that one often makes in order to survive. 

Such Big Dreams is the debut moral of Reema Patel. A moving story of survival and the cost of one’s ambition and power. Ms. Patel’s descriptions are powerful and honest as she reveals the different sides, the different “classes” of India. She peels back the hypocrisy of the rich who build luxurious mansions on the land of former slums and then gets on a soapbox about affordable housing and the state of the people in the slums. I thoroughly enjoyed Rakhi’s character, a young woman who lived a hard life that was not of her choosing. I couldn’t imagine being a seven year old and surviving on the streets and yet that’s where Rakhi’s story begins. She is a survivor and I hoped and cheered her on as she tries to rise above her lot in life and works for a better life rather than resolve that she was born there and would probably die there. The author’s note after the story adds to the emotional power of the story’s events. My one complaint is the author’s use of Indian words and phrases without an indication of the translations or meanings. Overall, I enjoyed Such Big Dreams and highly recommend it. 


Such Big Dreams is available May 10, 2022 in hardcover, eBook, and audiobook



Monday, April 4, 2022

In a Garden Burning Gold: a fantasy adventure about family, power and magic

In a Garden Burning Gold by Rory Power is a magical fantasy story about twins, Rhea and Lexos, who must find a way to keep their family in power against growing opposition. Rhea and Lexos have incredible magical abilities, along with their family, they can control the seasons, the tides, and the stars. Their magic also helps keep their father on the throne of their kingdom. However, over the past century, their father has become an unpredictable tyrant, with an ever growing temper, which has fueled a rebellion within their borders as well as attacks from rival nations. Rhea and Lexos now must fight to keep the kingdom, and the family, together while fighting treachery, deceit and drama that threatens the bonds they hold dear. Could their determination to bring peace find themselves on the opposing sides of the battlefield? 

Fantasy is not a genre I generally read but In a Garden Burning Gold, with its gorgeous cover and intriguing premise, had me taking a chance. At the core of the story is a family who must test the bonds of their family, to see how far they can bend before they break. The story itself is beautifully written with flowing language. However, the story was like a roller coaster of slow building anticipation to the sudden free fall of action. The slow parts were almost painfully slow which I found myself spacing out. The villain reveal was a bit surprising but as I looked back on the clues leading up to the reveal, it did make sense and was very predictable if I had paid closer attention. If you are a fantasy reader, I would recommend In a Garden Burning Gold


In a Garden Burning Gold is available April 5 in hardcover, eBook, and audiobook





 


Sunday, August 1, 2021

The Words Between Us: a story of the power of words

The Words Between Us by Erin Bartels is the story of the power of words. Robin Windsor has spent most of her life under an assumed name, trying to escape the stigma of her infamous parents. She thought she had finally found peace in an unassuming used bookstore in River City, Michigan. But the store is struggling and her past will soon come back to haunt her. On the morning of her father’s scheduled execution, Robin receives an eerily familiar book in the mail. The first edition of Catcher in the Rye transports her back to the summer 20 years ago when she met Peter Flynt, the boy who was her best friend, the boy who would ruin everything. Other books will follow, each with meaning for both Robin and Peter. Why would Peter be making contact now? Will she finally stop running and confront her family’s past? 

The Words Between Us is told in two timelines: then and now. As Robin receives each book, the reader is transported back to when the book had significance for Robin and Peter. I loved the references and discussions the characters have about the classic stories we all know and love. Often giving me insights that I didn’t think about for those stories. The story itself was good, but slow moving. When I finished, I wasn’t sure how I felt. I enjoyed seeing Robin deal with the immediate aftermath of her parents’ crimes and trials. What happens to the children of infamous people? How do they move on and deal with the notoriety? Overall, I enjoyed the stories. The story about her parents’ crimes fell flat for me but I was more interested in Robin’s growth as she deals with moving forward. I recommend The Words Between Us


The Words Between Us is available in paperback, eBook and audiobook. 


Friday, November 15, 2019

Fake news: what it is and what to do with it


Fake news. The term has been shouted at us for the last few years. From presidential candidates to newscasters to people on Facebook and other social media. Recently I found myself rolling my eyes as if to say “good grief” when someone tried to explain away a news story as fake news. And the more partisan the new source, the more “fake” people believe the news is. Conservatives often see CNN as fake news while liberals view Fox News as fake. It seems if people do not believe the story could possibly be true, then its fake news. Why do people engage in fake news? The answer is simple: power. Fake news has power. Even when proven false and redacted that information still has the potential to influence decisions, opinions and impressions. What exactly is fake news? How is it defined? What are the types of fake news? And what can we do in order to avoid falling for fake news?


Fake news is a type of yellow journalism or propaganda. It is deliberate misinformation or flat out hoaxes. It has been spread in traditional ways like via newspapers, broadcast media and word of mouth. Fake news in newspapers is nothing new. In 1835, the New York Sun ran a series about scientists finding life on the moon. Many people believed, at first, soon many people saw through the outrageous story. Edgar Allan Poe would eventually write a critical essay about the story’s unbelievability and the public’s gullibility for believing the story in the first place (Uberti, 2016). Today, we have online social media added to the mix. Fake news is written and published with the intent to mislead the public’s perception about an agency, business or a person. It is used to damage the reputation of the subject and gain either financially, when a business goes under, or politically by winning an office or causing an individual to lose theirs. As stated above, fake news is about power. Many stories are shared because they confirm the worldview of the sharer not as the world truly is (Borel, 2017). Fake new plants seeds of doubt to distract and flood everyone with conflicting and confusing information that people stop listening (Borel, 2017). Fake news is often used to cast doubt on legitimate news stories or to take attention away from more serious and important events. Considering how fast many of us get our news, many people sometimes just reading the headlines without reading the article, it is no wonder that fake news can flourish.


Claire Wardle of First Draft News identified seven types of fake news and their motivations. First, satire or parody has no intention to cause harm but has the potential to fool. Sites like The Onion and The Babylon Bee are clearly satire sites and yet many people read their articles as if they were real news stories. Understanding satire is not a trait that many people have. In 1729, Jonathan Swift wrote an article titled A Modest Proposal, in which he suggested that impoverished people sell their children as food to the rich, was met with outrage. While some understood the joke and took offense while others just didn’t understand its intentions. Second, false connection when headlines, visuals or captions do not support an article’s content. Clickbait articles are notorious for this type. Their aim is for you to click on the article in order to gain money. Third, misleading content used to frame an issue or individual in an unfavorable light. Fourth, false content is when false information is used in conjunction with real information and the reader is unable to distinguish between the two. Fifth, imposter content is when genuine sources are impersonated with false make up sources. Sixth, manipulated content is genuine information or imagery is manipulated to deceive. This form is commonly used when photos or photoshopped or videos are doctored. Lastly, fabricated content is an article that is 100% false and written to deceive or do harm. The motivations behind these types of fake news ranges from poor journalism (someone just didn’t take the time to fact check) to parody to influence political support and elections.


So, what do we do about fake news? First, be critical of all information. Double check and verify before sharing, posting and even reacting to it. I’ve gotten into the habit of checking a story that seems too outrageous to be true. If only one news site is carrying the story, then I am skeptical at the story’s veracity. There are also a variety of face checking website to verify a story. For example, Factcheck,org and FactCheckEd,org are nonpartisan, nonprofit sites to check stories. False information is deeply ingrained in politics and always has been. So why are we surprised when a politician lies or stretches the truth? Every politician will say whatever is needed to order to gain a vote. Whether it is trashing the opponent or making promises that are too good to be true. Second, stop and think. While a guest on “On the Media” radio show, Craig Silverman stated that we need to use emotional skepticism, to second guess their instinctual reactions (Wardle, 2017). Emotional skepticism is essentially to stop and think, “why am I having this reaction?” What about the article incites anger or other emotions? We need to stop and take a second look before hitting the share button. A second look may show you whether you truly need to share it or not. Third, Brooke Borel states in her article that news media needs to “stop trying so hard to entertain” and just state the facts or story (2017). News has become a source of entertainment. Newscaster tell story or make silly comments about the stories that its hard to take the story, or the newscasters themselves, seriously.


In conclusion, fake news is essentially propaganda. It is designed to distract, cast doubt and destroy. Fake news is nothing new. It just as been given a new name and, in this age of fast news, very few news organizations are fact checking news stories in order to beat their competitors when reporting, leading to false information and misinformation public. Fact checking takes effort and time which is probably why so many people don’t bother to do it. They see a headline immediately have an emotional response, usually anger, and comment, share and spread the story without stopping first to check to see what is even true. As we approach the 2020 presidential election, a year I am personally dreading, we need to stop and check the facts before we form opinions, comment and share on social media and debate with others. Don’t take the newscasters’ word for it. Don’t take the candidates or any politicians’ word for it. Don't take a family member or a friend's word for it, Stop and check.

References

Borel, Brooke (January 4, 2017). Fact-Checking Won’t Save Us From Fake News. https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/fact-checking-wont-save-us-from-fake-news/. Retrieved October 30, 2019.

Uberti, David (December 15, 2016). The real history of fake news. https://www.cjr.org/special_report/fake_news_history.php?link. Retrieved October 29, 2019.

Wardle, Claire (February 16, 2017). Fake news. It's complicated. https://firstdraftnews.org/fake-news-complicated/. Retrieved October 29, 2019.

Saturday, September 28, 2019

Cancel culture: good? bad? ugly?


Over the past few weeks, after the news broke of SNL’s firing of Shane Gillis for making racist jokes against Chinese, I heard the term, cancel culture, more and more. I wasn’t sure what it was. When it comes to the massive world of social media, I’m somewhat of a novice. Yes, I’m on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram but I don’t follow of a lot of people or really pay attention to current trends. I decided to investigate and write about cancel culture. What I found was overwhelming and left me unsure of what my stance would be. So, my goal of this post is an examine of what cancel is and how people are using it, reacting to it and give my thoughts on whether it is necessary.


Cancel culture, as described by Wikipedia, is “a form of public shaming that aims to hold an individual and groups accountable by calling attention to behavior, usually on social media, that is perceived as problematic.” It is also referred to as call out culture or outrage culture. It is essentially a boycott of a person, usually a celebrity, when he or she has shared a questionable or unpopular opinion or has behaved in a manner that is perceived as offensive. The person is “canceled” when a large group of fans completely boycott the individual’s work causing loss of jobs, massive declines in the celebrity’s career and fanbase. For example, when Rosanne Barr made the racist comment about Valerie Jarrett, she lost her reboot show. This opinion, statement or behavior can be from the present; however, more and more celebrities are being canceled for things said and done in the distant past. Kevin Hart was canceled earlier this year, and lost his job hosting the Oscar because of a joke he made on Twitter several years before. However, canceling of a celebrity is rarely permanent. For celebrities like Taylor Swift, the offense was quickly forgotten and she’s back on top with a bestseller album. 


Some have called cancel culture an extreme form of the PC culture and the popular catch all to describe a social justice warrior agenda (Butler, 2018). One author from an online magazine makes the argument that we have always lived in a cancel culture (Semiramis, 2019) and various people from history as examples. Alice Bell, who developed a cure for leprosy has essentially been “canceled” since she is a black woman and her contribution has been hidden. Alan Turing invented one of the core concepts of computer science but since he was gay, his name lives in obscurity. Today’s cancel culture is simply the minorities, the oppressed, reclaiming their power and fighting back (Semiramis, 2019). Some have even claimed that a cancel culture doesn’t exist as some who have been “cancelled” themselves back in the public’s good graces as time goes by (Butler, 2018). Others have claimed that there is only critics of cancel culture because most “victims” are usually white men (Semiramis, 2019) and they aren’t used to being held accountable for their actions. However, more and more victims of cancel culture are minorities and women who don’t always follow the new PC culture.


There is an equal argument against cancel culture. According to critics, the problem with cancel culture is the methods used to cancel certain people and ideas. “A small number of online progressives have appointed themselves a moral vanguard” to expose a transgression and enforce a punishment through a “digital mob” (Linker, 2019). It is an attempt to police American culture, to draw a line on what is acceptable in life and especially comedy as seen in the outrage over jokes made by some stand-up comedians. The most current comedian to be in the spotlight due to cancel culture is Dave Chappelle after his Netflix special Sticks and Stones ignited a firestorm online. Taylor Swift, a victim of cancel culture, spoke out against it, saying that cancelling someone can send the wrong, even tragic, message. Dr. Pamela Paresky calls cancel culture apocalyptic. “An apocalyptic culture is not interested in wounded hearts. It wants to destroy, not heal. It wants retribution for moral impurities, not forgiveness” (Paresky, 2019). Cancel culture is born out of a knee jerk reaction instead of asking “why did he say that?” (Paresky, 2019). As Wesley Morris writes in this article, The Morality War, the intent is ignored and only what is said is what matters (2018).


As I said earlier, this topic was very overwhelming. It took several days of reading article after article and gathering my own thoughts about cancel culture to be able to sit down and write this post. On one hand, it is important to call each other for things that are wrong and hopefully help them see the error in their statement. On the other hand, cancel culture really isn’t doing that. Cancel culture also doesn’t allow for a person to change their minds. Say someone made a statement twenty years ago and someone calls him or her out on it in the present, the outrage usually ignores any statement made since that clearly shows that the person no longer believes in the past statement. Cancel culture is essentially shunning, a Scarlet letter for the world to see. It is an extreme form of a boycott and in most cases, it is downright bullying. It’s one thing to call for a boycott to hurt a company or individual’s bottom-line, like the Montgomery Bus Boycott (1995-1956). However, it is entirely different to destroy their lives. Some in the cancel culture frenzy have called for the offender’s death and the death of his or her family!


In conclusion, the motives behind cancel culture is on the right track. We need to call each other out when statements or actions are made that are harmful. However, if I don’t something an actor, artist, writer or even politician has said or done that I don’t like, I simply stop watching their movies/TV shows, stop buying their music or book and I won’t vote for them for political positions. I will stop following them on social media. However, I will not call for them to be harmed or even killed. Cancel culture leaves no room for correction, no open dialogue. No opportunity to prove the statement wrong. It is essentially “I don’t like what you said, so you must disappear.” As you can see from the pictures I have found online, there are many in social media who question the firestorm of cancel culture. We can do better than that. Most of my research has shown me that there are plenty of people who are tired of the cancel culture and very few who see its merits.

References
Butler, Danielle. October 23, 2018. The Misplaced Hysteria About a ‘Cancel Culture’ That Doesn’t Actually Exist. The Root. https://verysmartbrothas.theroot.com/the-misplaced-hysteria-about-a-cancel-culture-that-do-1829563238/amp.

Linker, Damon. September 20, 2019. What is ‘cancel culture’ and its critics get wrong. The Week. https://theweek.com/articles/866329/what-cancel-culture-critics-wrong

Morris, Wesley. October 3, 2018. The Morality War. The New York Times Magazine. https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/10/03/magazine/morality-social-justice-art-entertainment.html

Paresky, Pamela B. June 19, 2019. The Apocalyptic Cult of Cancel Culture. Psychology Today.

Semiramis. April 10, 2019. The Untold Truth about ‘Cancel Culture’. Medium.  https://medium.com/@vcasaisvila/the-untold-truth-about-cancel-culture-3675cac983c3

Friday, January 20, 2017

The Promise of Rayne: one woman's choice between her family and her dreams

The Promise of Rayne by Nicole Dees is the story of Rayne Shelby, a woman who has spent most of her life in the shadow of her family’s powerful name and history. While trying to earn their approval, she seeks perfection while managing the family lodge. Until one day, when one mistakes dashes her dreams and jeopardizes her future. She realizes that she faces a choice: defy her family or deny her dreams. Levi Harding remembers the brief romantic night he had with Shelby as teens and was deeply hurt by her rejection. But when Rayne comes to him seeking help, he cannot resist. The spark is renewed between them but their new relationships is put at risk as a wildfire threatens everything they hold dear and old family secrets are revealed. Will Rayne and Levi be able to hold on to their relationship? Will the family secrets tear them apart?


The Promise of Rayne is a classic story of woman held tight by her family’s control and power and the man who seeks to break her of that hold. I enjoyed Rayne as a woman who cherishes her memories of her beloved grandfather and resents her uncle’s hold on her and refusal to let her grow. I also enjoyed Levi as the man from the wrong side of the tracks who sees Rayne as the brilliant woman she is and is drawn to her. The story has drama, suspense and shocking turns as the story unfolds. I recommend The Promise of Rayne.

The Promise of Rayne
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Saturday, September 5, 2015

Today in History: The Reign of Terror begins

The Reign of Terror of the French Revolution ran September 5, 1793 to July 28, 1794. It was a period of violence and was incited between two rival political factions. The Girondins, a group who campaigned to end the monarchy but resisted the spiraling momentum of the revolution, and the Jacobins, who were popular with the working class, grew to be a very powerful group within government. The mass executions of “enemies of the revolution” would be done by the guillotine throughout France. The most famous victims was Queen Marie Antoinette (October 16, 1793). Her husband, King Louis XVI was executed earlier in the year on January 21, 1793.


There is some debate about the origins and cause of the radical turn during Reign of Terror. One theory is that the public was growing increasingly frustrated that the social equality and anti-poverty measures that were promised by the revolution had not yet materialized. Four years into the revolution and goals were largely unattained. A second theory is the two groups, Girondins and Jacobins, were growing apart in ideology and the idea arose to execute inciters against the revolution and provide examples for those who were considering rebellion. The idea was that terror was a response to the circumstances and was a necessary evil and natural defense. Lastly, the change in ideology played a large role. The idea was to instill free will and an enlighten government. But as ideology became more and more pervasive, violence became a significant method to deal with counter-revolutionists and any other opposition.


The mastermind behind the Reign of Terror would be Maximillien Robespierre. He would be called “The Incorruptible” because he’s ascetic dedication to his ideals. Robespierre made his entrance on the Committee of Public Safety, the de facto executive government created by the National Convention, on July 27, 1793. He would quickly become the most influential member of the Committee as it moved to more and more radical measures. Robespierre would claim in order to defend the revolution from those who destroy it, the shedding of blood was justified; therefore the ends justified the means. He would fall as quickly as he rose as public support for the executions began to turn after the execution of the Carmelite Nuns of Compiegne on July 17, 1794 when the nuns refused to give up their monastic vows. Robespierre begin to speak against the Reign that he started. He would be the Reign’s last victim as he was executed on July 28, 1794.


Everyone is familiar was the guillotine, the symbol of the Reign of Terror. Although beheading machines, like the guillotine, had been in use for centuries, the guillotine was designed by Antoine Louis and German engineer Tobias Schmidt after an October 10, 1789 proposal from French physician Joseph-Ignace Guillotin to reform capital punishment. The apparatus was a tall, upright frame with a weighted and angled blade which was raised to the top and suspended until the moment of release. The machine would be influenced by the Italian Mannaia (or Mannaja), the Scottish Maiden and the Halifax Gibbet. The guillotine would be called the National Razor and become the symbol of the cause. Approximately 16,594 people would be executed (2,629 in Paris).

The Reign of Terror quickly got out of hand as it executed anyone was suspected of an enemy to the revolution. People who were condemned by tribunals: 8% were aristocrats, 6% were clergy, 14% were working class and 72% were workers or peasants accused of hoarding, evading the draft, desertion or rebellion against the revolution. After Robespierre’s execution, the terror was officially ended as a new Committee of Public Safety was elected and its powers were reduced piece by piece.


The Reign of Terror is an example of extreme measures to handle those who may be in opposition or even rebel. It is ironic that the revolutionaries fought against the status quo would turn and terrorize those who fought against the new status quo. As historian Lord Acton said, "Power tends to corrupt and absolutely power corrupts absolutely." The power that the Committee of Safety had corrupted their ability to govern as they were elected to do. The Reign of Terror is a lesson in power of government.