Showing posts with label social media. Show all posts
Showing posts with label social media. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 16, 2024

Just Don't Fall: a fun, clean sports romance

Just Don’t Fall by Emma St Clair is the first book in the Sweater Weather series. Parker Douglas grew up with Logan Barnes, her brother’s best friend, and her first crush. But he broke her heart when he left town. Now he’s back as he was forced to play for Harvest Hollow’s minor league team. Recovering from an injury and bad press, Logan is biding his time until he can return to the NHL. As the team’s social media manager, Parker will be working with him daily as she creates TikTok videos and fun team highlights. She's determined to keep their relationship professional. However, one conservation with her father leads to a fake relationship with Logan, she realizes her old crush never died. Parker starts to think her feelings aren’t one-sided, but Logan isn’t staying, right? 

Just Don’t Fall is a sweet, clean romance with humor and great banter. There are also moments of drama as Parker stands up for herself and demands her own path in life, love and career. As well as Logan, who is hiding deep hurts that led to the way he left town in the first place. I loved the relationship development between Logan and Parker. The teasing, the deep talks and the fun competition between them was like watching a rom-com movie. This story is an easy read as it kept my attention and flowed freely from the page. Overall, I enjoyed this book as Just Don’t Fall is a great and fun weekend read. I am looking forward to reading the rest of the series. If you enjoy sweet, clean sports romance, I highly recommend Just Don’t Fall. 


Just Don’t Fall is available in paperback, eBook and audiobook


Wednesday, August 19, 2020

Grown Ups: a millennial Bridget Jones's Diary


Grown Ups by Emma Jane Unsworth is the story of Jenny McLaine who is dealing with a break up and essentially having a breakdown. Jenny’s life is falling apart, her friendships are losing stream, and she lost her job as a columnist at a feminist online magazine. She is a woman obsessed with social media. She constantly checks the likes on her posts, during work meetings, during every possible moment even during sex. As she deals with her ex and his new girlfriend, she must deal with her mother is moving in. After leaving home at eighteen to be a self-sufficient millennial but now as a woman in her thirties, adulthood isn’t all what she thought it would be. The story is told in a series of texts, emails, and social media messages, Jenny must decide how she will pickup the pieces and learn how to grow up. Will she have the strength or willpower to take such a leap?


Grown Ups was described as Fleabag, a British comedy series which ran for two seasons, meets Conservations with Friends, a 2017 book by Sally Rooney about the relationship between four people. While I have not seen the show or read the book, I was intrigued because Fleabag has received high praise. Unfortunately, Grown Ups was not what I thought it would be. I expected a humorous, gritty story about a woman who must deal with the life she has instead of the one she thought would have. It was boring. It wasn’t humorous at all and I couldn’t connect with Jenny at all. She was completely unrelatable and by the end I felt she hadn’t changed very much, if at all. Even though social media is a large part of everyone’s life now, the social media angle in books how has been overdone, in my opinion. Grown Ups is the millennial version of Bridget Jones’s Diary (1996). While it is not something I enjoyed, audiences who enjoy Fleabag may enjoy Grown Ups.

Wednesday, May 13, 2020

Big Summer: a story of female friendships


Big Summer by Jennifer Weiner is a novel about the ins and outs of female relationships. Daphne Berg and Drue Cavanaugh became friends in school until one day, a fight ended their relationship. Six years later, Daphne is a social media influencer for plus sized women and enjoys her life. She is shocked when Drue shows up in her life again with a huge favor. She asks Daphne to be her maid-of-honor at her society wedding the following summer. Daphne is speechless and has a hard time saying no despite her reservation and her friend and roommate, Darshi’s warning. When the weekend of the wedding arrives, Daphne is swept up in the glamour of the Cape Cod waterfront mansion and the drama that always seems to be involved with a wedding. Tragedy strikes and Daphne finds herself in the middle of a murder investigation and finds herself determined to find out the truth. Will she be able to discover the truth? Will she be able to move forward?


Big Summer was hard to get through. Told in three parts, the story opens with a prologue about a mother and her son that does not seem to connect with the story of Daphne and Drue. When the connection is revealed, I thought “okay….?” The first part is super slow as the history and complexity of Daphne’s friendship with Drue and her own battle with her weight is the made focus. The second and third parts were much more fast paced as the murder investigation occurs and Daphne chases clues to who the killer could be. The book is marketed as “A sparkling novel about the complexities of females relationships, the pitfalls of living loud and online, and the resilience of the human heart.” In a way, the book is about these factors, however, I expected a more powerful commentary than what is featured. It was hard to sympathize with adult Daphne as she fell into the same patterns with Drue. And Drue was the stereotypical mean girl who seems to have it all but is jealous of the fat girl who has everything that matters. I even expected the death to be a fake and another ploy for attention or sympathy. Overall, the book was okay. I did not genuinely care about the characters, the resolution or the author’s commentary on fat shaming, social media, and relationships. If you are a fan of Jennifer Weiner, you may enjoy Big Summer.


Big Summer
is available in hardcover, eBook, and audiobook

Saturday, September 28, 2019

Cancel culture: good? bad? ugly?


Over the past few weeks, after the news broke of SNL’s firing of Shane Gillis for making racist jokes against Chinese, I heard the term, cancel culture, more and more. I wasn’t sure what it was. When it comes to the massive world of social media, I’m somewhat of a novice. Yes, I’m on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram but I don’t follow of a lot of people or really pay attention to current trends. I decided to investigate and write about cancel culture. What I found was overwhelming and left me unsure of what my stance would be. So, my goal of this post is an examine of what cancel is and how people are using it, reacting to it and give my thoughts on whether it is necessary.


Cancel culture, as described by Wikipedia, is “a form of public shaming that aims to hold an individual and groups accountable by calling attention to behavior, usually on social media, that is perceived as problematic.” It is also referred to as call out culture or outrage culture. It is essentially a boycott of a person, usually a celebrity, when he or she has shared a questionable or unpopular opinion or has behaved in a manner that is perceived as offensive. The person is “canceled” when a large group of fans completely boycott the individual’s work causing loss of jobs, massive declines in the celebrity’s career and fanbase. For example, when Rosanne Barr made the racist comment about Valerie Jarrett, she lost her reboot show. This opinion, statement or behavior can be from the present; however, more and more celebrities are being canceled for things said and done in the distant past. Kevin Hart was canceled earlier this year, and lost his job hosting the Oscar because of a joke he made on Twitter several years before. However, canceling of a celebrity is rarely permanent. For celebrities like Taylor Swift, the offense was quickly forgotten and she’s back on top with a bestseller album. 


Some have called cancel culture an extreme form of the PC culture and the popular catch all to describe a social justice warrior agenda (Butler, 2018). One author from an online magazine makes the argument that we have always lived in a cancel culture (Semiramis, 2019) and various people from history as examples. Alice Bell, who developed a cure for leprosy has essentially been “canceled” since she is a black woman and her contribution has been hidden. Alan Turing invented one of the core concepts of computer science but since he was gay, his name lives in obscurity. Today’s cancel culture is simply the minorities, the oppressed, reclaiming their power and fighting back (Semiramis, 2019). Some have even claimed that a cancel culture doesn’t exist as some who have been “cancelled” themselves back in the public’s good graces as time goes by (Butler, 2018). Others have claimed that there is only critics of cancel culture because most “victims” are usually white men (Semiramis, 2019) and they aren’t used to being held accountable for their actions. However, more and more victims of cancel culture are minorities and women who don’t always follow the new PC culture.


There is an equal argument against cancel culture. According to critics, the problem with cancel culture is the methods used to cancel certain people and ideas. “A small number of online progressives have appointed themselves a moral vanguard” to expose a transgression and enforce a punishment through a “digital mob” (Linker, 2019). It is an attempt to police American culture, to draw a line on what is acceptable in life and especially comedy as seen in the outrage over jokes made by some stand-up comedians. The most current comedian to be in the spotlight due to cancel culture is Dave Chappelle after his Netflix special Sticks and Stones ignited a firestorm online. Taylor Swift, a victim of cancel culture, spoke out against it, saying that cancelling someone can send the wrong, even tragic, message. Dr. Pamela Paresky calls cancel culture apocalyptic. “An apocalyptic culture is not interested in wounded hearts. It wants to destroy, not heal. It wants retribution for moral impurities, not forgiveness” (Paresky, 2019). Cancel culture is born out of a knee jerk reaction instead of asking “why did he say that?” (Paresky, 2019). As Wesley Morris writes in this article, The Morality War, the intent is ignored and only what is said is what matters (2018).


As I said earlier, this topic was very overwhelming. It took several days of reading article after article and gathering my own thoughts about cancel culture to be able to sit down and write this post. On one hand, it is important to call each other for things that are wrong and hopefully help them see the error in their statement. On the other hand, cancel culture really isn’t doing that. Cancel culture also doesn’t allow for a person to change their minds. Say someone made a statement twenty years ago and someone calls him or her out on it in the present, the outrage usually ignores any statement made since that clearly shows that the person no longer believes in the past statement. Cancel culture is essentially shunning, a Scarlet letter for the world to see. It is an extreme form of a boycott and in most cases, it is downright bullying. It’s one thing to call for a boycott to hurt a company or individual’s bottom-line, like the Montgomery Bus Boycott (1995-1956). However, it is entirely different to destroy their lives. Some in the cancel culture frenzy have called for the offender’s death and the death of his or her family!


In conclusion, the motives behind cancel culture is on the right track. We need to call each other out when statements or actions are made that are harmful. However, if I don’t something an actor, artist, writer or even politician has said or done that I don’t like, I simply stop watching their movies/TV shows, stop buying their music or book and I won’t vote for them for political positions. I will stop following them on social media. However, I will not call for them to be harmed or even killed. Cancel culture leaves no room for correction, no open dialogue. No opportunity to prove the statement wrong. It is essentially “I don’t like what you said, so you must disappear.” As you can see from the pictures I have found online, there are many in social media who question the firestorm of cancel culture. We can do better than that. Most of my research has shown me that there are plenty of people who are tired of the cancel culture and very few who see its merits.

References
Butler, Danielle. October 23, 2018. The Misplaced Hysteria About a ‘Cancel Culture’ That Doesn’t Actually Exist. The Root. https://verysmartbrothas.theroot.com/the-misplaced-hysteria-about-a-cancel-culture-that-do-1829563238/amp.

Linker, Damon. September 20, 2019. What is ‘cancel culture’ and its critics get wrong. The Week. https://theweek.com/articles/866329/what-cancel-culture-critics-wrong

Morris, Wesley. October 3, 2018. The Morality War. The New York Times Magazine. https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/10/03/magazine/morality-social-justice-art-entertainment.html

Paresky, Pamela B. June 19, 2019. The Apocalyptic Cult of Cancel Culture. Psychology Today.

Semiramis. April 10, 2019. The Untold Truth about ‘Cancel Culture’. Medium.  https://medium.com/@vcasaisvila/the-untold-truth-about-cancel-culture-3675cac983c3